A Tribute to Womanhood

Welcome to "I Am Woman"...a tribute to all those women who had the courage and perseverance to stand up and fight for their rights. Thanks to those who came before us we enjoy a freedom unknown to women not too long ago. But, sadly, in many parts of the world, women continue to be repressed. In fact, even in this country there are women living today under the threat of violence...completely controlled by a violent spouse. Some may make it; others won't. Hopefully, one day ALL women will be free. May that day come soon.


Questions to Ask Yourself

An abusive partner will railroad discussions leaving you with no time to think about what's right and what's wrong in their behavior. Take a few moments to consider the following  questions.....

Do you feel that you can't discuss with your partner what is bothering you?

Does your partner frequently criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self-esteem?

Does your partner ridicule you for expressing yourself? 

Does your partner isolate you from friends, family or groups?

Does your partner limit your access to work, money or material resources?

Has your partner ever stolen from you?  Or run up debts for you to handle?

Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close?

Have you ever felt obligated to have sex, just to avoid an argument about it?

Do you sometimes feel trapped in the relationship?

Has your partner ever thrown away your belongings, destroyed objects or threatened pets?

Are you afraid of your partner?

1 comment:

  1. Your last post and this one pretty much almost describe my home life. There are times where "he" will blow up, rant and rave...yelling to high heaven at me, the girls, both, and then 10-15 minutes later "he" acts like nothing happened. If the girls point out "his" behavior, "he" might say something like "I was only expressing myself, just trying to get my point across. Because obviously mere talking doesn't get through to you people sometimes so maybe if I yell and get angry it would be more effective."

    "His" sister was by last weekend, and her son is facing a divorce from his wife of 2 years. The wife says he's done too many things that hurt her and she can't take it anymore. "His" initial reply to his sister was "Well, if they just had more money, that would solve everything." Then "he" went on to say something like "there aren't traditional values anymore, where you stick it out and make it work." I don't know what 'his' nephew did as the girl won't speak of it, but staying together for the sake of the child (they have a 1 year old) isn't going to be beneficial or healthy for anyone. (Plus 'his' sister cannot stand this poor girl.) "His" sister can be as emotionally, verbally abusive as "he" is...I've been subjected to her abuse as well in the past.

    The scars left behind by emotional abuse are far worse that the physical. Only difference is with the physical you know it's happening, with the emotional/verbal/psychological it can be a long time before you realize it and even then....it's hard to believe.