Sex should not be by force. It must not be under duress never give room for 'marital rape.' You can encourage each other, you can influence and seduce, but never have sex by force.
Has your partner ever made you have sex when you didn’t want to?
Have you ever been uncomfortable with a sexual request from your partner, but did it anyway?
Have you ever had sex with your partner because you were afraid Have you ever given into sex because your partner would not stop harassing you about it?
Marital rape is so destructive because it betrays the fundamental basis of the marital relationship, because it questions every understanding you have not only of your partner and the marriage, but of yourself. You end up feeling betrayed, humiliated and, above all, very confused. Of all sexual assaults, marital rape is the most under reported. Many women who are victims of marital rape have great difficulty in defining it as such. The traditional idea that it is impossible for a man to rape his wife and that somehow, in taking our marriage vows we have abdicated any say over our own body and sexuality, basically denied ourselves the right to say 'no', is still prevalent amongst wives as much as amongst their husbands. A wife being raped will often question her right to refuse intercourse with her husband, and while she may realize that legally it now constitutes rape, there are many reasons which may prevent her from perceiving it in such a light.
- Feelings of betrayal
Longer-term effects can include:
- Inability to trust
- Fear of intimacy
- Acute fear of being assaulted again
- Sexual dysfunction