Why They Stalk

 

Please take time to read this section.  It is extremely important to be aware of the following traits of stalkers. These will alert you to the possibility that a potential suitor or even a friend or acquaintance could become a stalker.

Stalkers refuse to take no for an answer. They cannot or will not believe that the victim is not interested in them or has no desire to rekindle their relationship. In fact, they often believe that their victim really does love them, but just doesn't know it; hence, the victim needs to be pushed into realizing it. As long as they continue pursuing their victim, the stalker can convince themselves they haven't been completely rejected yet.

Stalkers have an obsessive personality.  The become so totally obsessed the the person they are pursuing, that their every waking thought centers on the victim.  Every plan the stalker has for the future involves the victim.  And, along with their obsessive thinking, they also display other psychological problems or personality disorders.  They may suffer from paranoia, schizophrenia, and other types of delusional thinking, and although there are drugs out there to treat certain specific mental disorders, the stalkers, when given the choice, rarely comply with their medication or treatment.

Most stalkers are above average in intelligence; hence, they are usually much smart than your usual person with mental problems. Thus, they are able to go to great lengths to obtain information about their victim or to find a victim who has secretly moved.  (In my case, my ex found me through a real estate friend of his.  He manipulated the man into believing that he had some important news for me from my family).  They have been known to hack into computers, to tap telephone lines, and even go so far as to take jobs at public utilities that allow them access to the victims...and because of their intelligence, they are able to throw others off their trail.   

Stalkers do not display the norm discomfort or anxiety that most people feel when they find themselves in certain situations.  For example, normal folk would be quite embarrassed if they were discovered following other people, going through their trash, or any other inappropriate behaviors that they display. but to stalkers, they are not being inappropriate at all.  This is only a means of gaining the other person's love. 

This is a big one.  Most stalkers don't have any relationships outside of the one they imagine exists between themselves and their victim...and it is because they are such loners, that they become so desperate to obtain this relationship.
Stalkers suffer from very low self-esteem and feel that they 'must' have a relationship with their victim in order to have any self worth.  

And finally, few stalkers can see how their actions are hurting others.  Most do not think they are threatening or intimidating; they actually believe that they are simply trying to show the victim that they are the right one for them.  Like sociopaths, society's rules do not pertain to them because in their eyes, they are not doing anything wrong.  They do not regard what they are doing as a crime.  To them, it is true love; the only exception is that the victim doesn't know it yet.

Stalkers can become dangerous and violent when frustrated...and often deadly, and although most of the cases do not end in murder or bodily injury, enough do each year, so victims should never brush aside that possibility.  This is not a crime to be taken lightly...no matter who the stalker is.

Do you know anyone like this?.....

• Refuses to take no for an answer
•  
• Has an obsessive personality type
•   
• Has above average intelligence
•  
• No or very few personal relationships
•  
• Suffers no embarrassment or discomfort at actions
•  
• Low self esteem
•  
• Has a noticeable mean streak
•  
• Sociopathic personality